Anger Management in Children

How Do We Prevent Violent Behavior in Our Child?

Our children have started to become more aggressive due to the increasing and normalizing tendency of violence and the effects of games that make it seem like a normal thing, either because of one or more of the family members, or because of the child's relatives, family or friends. Toy guns in their hands and seeds of anger and violence are not missing from their tongues. The growing problem of violence in our children has many sources.

IS YOUR CHILD'S COMMUNICATION LANGUAGE FIGHT?

It is common for children to fight. Sometimes they may resort to fighting in order to achieve their desires and wishes, and sometimes to find a solution to the problems that they cannot come to terms with. However, if a child has made fighting a behavior and chooses to talk, not to negotiate, to communicate, it is likely that the child has an anger problem. In fact, a child with an anger problem may always exhibit aggressive behavior. As he argues with his peers, he may get involved in fights with older people and even fights with his parents. Since it contains a mountain of anger like a volcano, its social relations are zero and it does not communicate with anyone correctly. He always carries aggression with him like a shield because it is his way of expressing himself.
Communication within the family is one of the biggest reasons that reveal children's aggression and habits. A child growing up in an environment of violence and fighting sees violence as the way to solve problems. A child who lacks love and affection and is ignored. He doesn't offer much of a solution. At this point, the attitude of the family becomes more important. If you have a child who has a tendency to violence and cannot control anger, you should definitely change the way of communication and establish a true and loving relationship with your child. In the face of problems and mistakes, you should offer constructive solutions instead of physical punishments.
You should definitely talk to your child. You should hug him, express that you love him very much, touch him, touch him, spend a lot of time with him.

The child may resort to violence to feel and show himself important, to prove himself. At the same time, the child may choose violence to dominate his environment. In addition, children who think they are in the center of life and who are raised "Spoiled" may resort to fighting to do what they want more easily. Often, children cannot foresee the consequences of their actions. Although the result he reached after resorting to violence was upsetting, it may seem like an easy way for him because he could not think of it beforehand.

What to Do in the Face of Our Children's Tendency to Violence

Our children see their parents as role models. More precisely, children are not raised, whatever you are, the child is He. Your children imitate you from infancy, even from very early infancy (when they see and react). Your actions and actions are written in your mind by your speech. This is how an empty, unrecorded brain fills up. If that child sees violence, fight and noise in the environment where he is raised, he adopts the situation and habits. You should be the person you want your child to be.

The wishes of your child who has anger problems and aggression should not be tolerated. Children need to learn that violence is not a method that works.

Children should feel like an individual. You can give your children a lot of responsibility for this.
You should listen to your children and give importance to their opinions. You should definitely talk to them. You should chat with them a lot, take care of them, organize events with them. You should never leave your child alone in any process, otherwise he or she may become violent again.

We need to keep our children away from all kinds of violent games and toys.


Finally;

Do you experience these with your children every day?
Do you hug your children every day?
Do you read to your children every day?
Do you allow him to look at the TV from time to time, and the rest of the time, do you set up environments for play at home or outside?
Do you draw pictures together?
Do you listen to what he tells or by looking into his eyes while chatting with him?
Do you ask your children how their day was and are you interested in your child?
Do you tell him that you love your child very much and that you can do anything for him?